It’s day one on your job and you’re excited to start. You’ve had your orientation with HR and you are introduced to your department. Your manager greets you and begins the run down on how to do your job. They are done talking, you go to your desk and you have no clue to what they told you to do.
Not to worry, it’s not you it’s them. George Bernard Shaw, a playwright was quoted saying, “The greatest problem with communication is the illusion that it has been accomplished”. As a former manager I find this to be very true.
Communication only happens when the information which has been given by the sender has be understood by the receiver. When you are in leadership or supervisory, role it is your responsibility to make sure the receiver has decoded (comprehended) your message, information or instructions. This can be done by having them give you feedback (encoding) on what they’ve told or asked to do. If they can not do this, then the message was never communicated.
I had to learn this the hard way. I was constantly frustrated with my staff not following through or delivering expected outcomes. I was able to correct this problem by asking my staff to tell me what they were asked to do. If they couldn’t, I would find a way to communicate it differently until they were able to tell me with comprehension.
Speaking the language of your staff, team or coworkers and allowing time for mental modes and jargon to be learned removes barriers to communication often experienced by new hires or new team members.
I learned a few lessons from this experience.
- Talking is NOT communication. Just because you ask for it to be done, it doesn’t mean it will be done right.
- No matter how big your vocabulary may be, it’s all lost in translation if who you are communicating with doesn’t speak your language. Lose the jargon!
- If there’s no feedback, you’re assuming you were understood. We all know what happens when we assume…
- Speak with the receiver in mind and how they interpret information and use the best channel to communicate to the receiver.
The first week of January has come and gone and many are moving along with their New Year’s Resolutions and Goals. That is, if you’ve started…
Making the decision to start new endeavors or break old habits is easy. It’s beginning the process that many find difficult to do especially if this is your first attempt to make the new year the time you make changes in your personal or professional life.
If you are one of the individuals who have not started and you’re feeling you’ve failed before you even got out of the starting blocks, STOP! You’re not a failure. Setting New Year’s Resolutions and Goals to kick off your new year is great because it’s a great way to mark time and measure your growth. There’s no cardinal sin in starting the second week of January. The decision to take action and make changes in your life that produce positive outcomes is a plus and the first step to improving your quality of life and the first sign that you have already changed your old way of thinking by acknowledging the need to for change or improvement. So let’s figure out “where do I begin?”
Here’s some tips on how to get “unstuck” and begin seeing the change you desire to see if you find yourself setting goals you can’t seem to reach.
- Set realistic goals. If you work part time, are in extra curricular activities, enrolled in school part time and your goal is to earn a bachelor’s degree, setting a deadline of 3 years is setting yourself up for failure. Audit how your time is spent within a 24 hour period and plan how and when you’ll have the time to commit to your goal. Until this goal is met, stick to your plan.
- Be truthful about your abilities. If you’re impatient don’t set long-term goals. You’re setting yourself up for failure. If you must set a long term goal, make the steps to reaching it a “micro goal” with a short term deadline of 30 days or less. Micro goals are satisfying and effective. They keep you motivated as well as giving you a sense of accomplishment needed to work toward the larger goal.
- Tell someone. Accountability works. You must also give this person permission to call you to the carpet when you are off course. Thinking about what you want to do is just a thought or desire. Once you say it to someone and share the action steps you’ll take to reach the outcomes desired it has now become an actual goal.
I wish you much success in pursuing your resolutions and goals. If you are need of a certified lifestyle coach who is trained and provides resources to assist you in setting attainable goals feel free to call my office at 630-296-4630. Initial consultations are free.
You’re driving your car and it’s veering to the left. You straighten it out, release the wheel and it veers to the left again. It’s out of alignment.
Like my car, I always get tell tale signs when I
‘m not in alignment with my purpose and goals I’ve set for myself.
By nature I am Type B personality, easy going and free spirited but when I’m out of alignment I become irritable and experience actual stressed induced physical pain. My efforts are also more labor intensive and met with more resistance.
In the midst of being “busy” sometimes the signs of being misaligned are not obvious. This is when having a set plan with benchmarks, deadlines and expected outcomes becomes a valuable tool.
Whether it’s our vehicle, body or business relationships and|or environment if it’s not in alignment, it won’t run smoothly or be pain free.
The great thing about misalignments is that whatever is out of balance, can be corrected. Like you would your vehicle, take yourself off the road for repair. Pull out your tools (your plan) and run a diagnostic on where you are and how you got there.
Bring yourself back into alignment by correcting every area that has been an obstacle, distraction or barrier to you reaching your destination and causing you to veer out of your lane. This could be work environments, people steps in your plan that are not producing the outcomes desired.
Failure to realign will cause you to constantly be off centered and could be very costly long term.
The new year brings opportunities to create new goals. No matter how crazy, hectic or chaotic things may be, you can always change YOUR narrative. Here’s a suggestion for rebooting your life.
1. Take control of your circumstances by stopping long enough to assess where you, are what’s happening and who’s involved. This also requires taking ownership of your life and the outcomes of your choices.
2. Identify alternate ways to reach the desired outcomes/direction you seek to reach
3. Delete everything and everyone that presents itself as an obstacle or distraction
The goal is to be consistent and seek support from individuals who share the same goals and or desire to accomplish goals. If you don’t have peers that share the same lifestyle of personal development as you, it may be time to seek new acquaintances.