Making Moves And Going Nowhere

You see the post and you’re thinking, “They’re at all the right places with all the right people, they’re making BOSS moves.” This virtual world allows anyone to create any persona they choose with a snapshot that measures a moment in time of what the account holder wants you to see. The narrative of “I’m grinding”. 

Social media can be a tricky place. Many interchange motion with progress and being busy with being productive and believing it’s a formula for success. Wouldn’t that be great if being busy was the key to success? One could arguably state that one determines their own success. There’s some truth to this however, all success has outcomes that are evidence of productivity.

The difference between a real boss and a social media BOSS is that a real boss MUST deliver and they carry responsibility for those who that work for them and if they’re a great boss, they invest in their human resources. 

So let’s BOSS up! Every decision you make as an entrepreneur must be intentional. From your social media post to the people you seek to network and collaborate with. You can get off the treadmill and have your motion count for more than exhausting your finances and resources. You can have measurable outcomes and experience success that shows up in your bank account. After all, this is the goal of being your own BOSS. 

Here’s some tips to help you make diamonds from your grinding. 

  1. Be Strategic. Plan and don’t stop planning. Your actions, relationships, social media content, events and most importantly create an action plan with your business plan. How you spend your time and who you spend it with must be intentional and always with the end in mind. 
  2. Implement your plan. A plan is worthless to you if you don’t implement. Before implementing, break your plan down so that you aren’t overwhelmed. Create actions steps that lead to monthly goals being reached. “Mini successes” motivate. Celebrate completing your actions steps and check them off your list. It keeps you dreaming big when you see the needle moving toward your plan materializing. 
  3. Don’t be distracted. Distractions will come, I promise! Opportunities to “do lunch” or “we need to do something together” are distractions if they’re not parallel to your plans. Every task or action on your plan is intentional and every detour is a delay. Bosses deliver. 
  4. Who’s in your corner? I’m huge on support systems. Having someone in your corner who believes in your ability to build a successful business is important. We all need a cheerleader. There’s more no’s than yes’s and more disappointments than incremental victories, so find an accountability partner who will hold hold you accountable and motivate you the days you can’t motivate yourself. 

Make your efforts matter. Don’t be in a perpetual state of continuous motion with no productivity. Newton’s Cradle is mesmerizing to watch but moving and not going anywhere is a death sentence to your business, so BOSS up! 

Words Frame The World You Live In

“The power of life and death is in the tongue” ~ Proverbs 18:21

My mom is 93 and a committed Christian who talks the talk and walks the walk. So much so that there were times I thought she was losing it because no matter what we discussed she would only speak to the situation using scriptures. Not just any scripture, scriptures related to faith. Never doubt.

As children, we thought it, believed it and we spoke it. We had the power! The power of life and death IS in the tongue. It’s not the words alone that give us the power. What we say gives life, it’s the conviction behind what we say that activates the power in what’s said. “Faith without works is dead”.

So it’s no surprise that as a child, I believed I could do whatever I set my mind to. Think about when you were a child. Way before the cares of adulthood, marriage, kids, bills…life clouded your psyche and began feeding us pessimism from society. What happened in your life to cause you to no longer have that tenacious faith in yourself that what you said was real and possible? Did you give in to life? Did you give in to what was said to or about you and not what was IN you? Did you think those things were true because “everyone is saying it”?  This form of doubt and interruption of faith can come in the form of family, friends, and society.

According to an article on Mental Health Promotion in Public Health: Perspectives and Strategies From Positive Psychology, Learned optimism is not about looking at the world through rose-colored glasses or having unrealistic or self-deceptive expectations. Instead, it is about teaching skills needed to promote mental health and to avoid excessive worry, rumination, or spirals of negative thinking.

Therefore speak life, not death. blessings not curses, be an optimist vs a pessimist. Postive affirmations rewire your thought process. Believing your affirmations lead to activation. So if it’s a personal goal, aspirational career goal or maybe you’re reinventing yourself after a life experience that transformed you, the power to see the manifestation of what you speak in your life comes when you act on it. Do your homework. Research and create a plan to reach what you’ve spoken. Implement and believe regardless of obstacles, challenges, set backs or people. Find a support system of people who think like what you want for yourself and believe if you spoke it, IT is so.


Lost In Translation 

It’s day one on your job and you’re excited to start. You’ve had your orientation with HR and you are introduced to your department. Your manager greets you and begins the run down on how to do your job. They are done talking, you go to your desk and you have no clue to what they told you to do.

Not to worry, it’s not you it’s them. George Bernard Shaw, a playwright was quoted saying, “The greatest problem with communication is the illusion that it has been accomplished”. As a former manager I find this to be very true.

Communication only happens when the information which has been given by the sender has be understood by the receiver. When you are in leadership or supervisory, role it is your responsibility to make sure the receiver has decoded (comprehended) your message, information or instructions. This can be done by having them give you feedback (encoding) on what they’ve told or asked to do. If they can not do this, then the message was never communicated.

I had to learn this the hard way.  I was constantly frustrated with my staff not following through or delivering expected outcomes. I was able to correct this problem by asking my staff to tell me what they were asked to do. If they couldn’t, I would find a way to communicate it differently until they were able to tell me with comprehension.

Speaking the language of your staff, team or coworkers and allowing time for mental modes and jargon to be learned removes barriers to communication often experienced by new hires or new team members.

I learned a few lessons from this experience.

  1. Talking is NOT communication. Just because you ask for it to be done, it doesn’t mean it will be done right.
  2. No matter how big your vocabulary may be, it’s all lost in translation if who you are communicating with doesn’t speak your language. Lose the jargon!
  3. If there’s no feedback, you’re assuming you were understood. We all know what happens when we assume…
  4. Speak with the receiver in mind and how they interpret information and use the best channel to communicate to the receiver.